Father’s Day 2016
Sunday, June 19, 2016
- If you are a dad and you are actively engaged and investing in your child or children, you are a success
- Dads make a difference
- Here’s how dads make a difference:
- Children in father-absent homes are almost 4x more likely to be poor. In 2011, 12% of children in married-couple families lived in poverty compared to 44% of children in mother-only families (US Census Bureau)
- Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse. 75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers are from fatherless homes (US Department of Health and Human Services)
- Children of single-parent homes are more than twice as likely to commit suicide (The Lancet)
- Middle school and high school students without a father in the home report lower GPAs than students with a father in the home. 71% of high school dropouts are fatherless (Psychology Today)
- When fatherlessness increases 1% in a neighborhood, that neighborhood experiences a 3% increase in adolescent violence and crime (Journal of Marriage and Family)
- A girl being raised without a father has a higher chance of teen pregnancy, getting married without a high school diploma, and forming a marriage where both partners have less than a high school degree (Journal of Family Issues)
- This is a big deal because according to the US Census Bureau, 1 in 3 children (24 million) live in biological father-absent homes.
- In the Gospels, Jesus constantly refers to God as “Father” (this was new) – over 165x
Dads make a difference when they…
- Do not work for food that spoils, but for food that endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you. For on him God the Father has placed his seal of approval.” – John 6:27 (#744)
- The Gospels record three different moments in Jesus’ life where God said, “This is my Son, I love Him and I am proud of Him.” (baptism, transfiguration, triumphal entry)
2. Give Their Best
- 9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! – Matthew 7:9-11 (#679)
- Giving your best doesn’t mean giving them everything or anything they want. It means giving them the best of your time, your attention (when you are wiped after work), and the best you can provide for them
3. Set Boundaries
- Believe it or not, kids want boundaries – it tells them someone cares
- 7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? 8 If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! – Hebrews 12:7-9 (#845)
- Word of caution: Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. – Ephesians 6:4 (#817)
4. Provide an Example
- Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. – John 5:19 (#743)
- So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up[a] the Son of Man, then you will know that I am he and that I do nothing on my own but speak just what the Father has taught me. – John 8:28 (#746)
- “More is caught than taught”
- Here’s the truth: All fathers, not just good ones, set an example…
- “Jacob’s sons replied deceitfully as they spoke…” – Genesis 34:13 (#25)
- Jesus wanted people to understand how God the Father felt about them. So He tells a story about a rebellious son.
- “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. – Luke 15:20 (#730)
- Successful dads make a difference by forgiving and seeking forgiveness.
- What if I’m right? Do you want to be right or do you want relationship?