NO REGRETS: I WISH I HAD STAYED IN TOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS
Sunday, May 21, 2017
- When you get to the end of your life what matters most is relationships. But you don’t develop them then – you develop those relationships today
- Your friendships determine the quality and direction of your life.
You may be one friendship away from changing your destiny.
There are places that you want to go in life and things that you want to change or things you want to become and there is someone who know how to get you there or help keep you from getting de-railed. And you might just be one friend away from changing your destiny.
- We all need a friend who makes us better (Samuel).
- 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7 (223)
- 11 Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” 12 So Jesse sent for him. He was dark and handsome, with beautiful eyes. And the Lord said, “This is the one; anoint him.” 13 So as David stood there among his brothers, Samuel took the flask of olive oil he had brought and anointed David with the oil. And the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David from that day on. Then Samuel returned to Ramah. – 1 Samuel 16:11-13 (223)
- Samuel saw something in David that no one else saw.
- There are parts of you and me that we can only reach as someone else gives them to us – people draw us out and help to develop us
- Do you seek out friends that can help you grow in areas where you want to grow?
- We need to be doing that for others as well (Proverbs 27:17)
- We all need a friend who helps us find spiritual strength (Jonathan).
- Saul’s son Jonathan had become David’s closest friend
- 15 One day near Horesh, David received the news that Saul was on the way to Ziph to search for him and kill him. 16 Jonathan went to find David and encouraged him to stay strong in his faith in God. – 1 Samuel 23:15-16 (229)
- A friend is always loyal, and a brotheris born to help in time of need. – Proverbs 17:17 (493)
- If you don’t have a friend like that, you could be one friend away from changing your destiny. And you could be that friend to someone else.
- We all need a friend who tells us the truth (Nathan).
- 12 So the Lord sent Nathan the prophet to tell David this story: “There were two men in a certain town. One was rich, and one was poor. 2 The rich man owned a great many sheep and cattle. 3 The poor man owned nothing but one little lamb he had bought. He raised that little lamb, and it grew up with his children. It ate from the man’s own plate and drank from his cup. He cuddled it in his arms like a baby daughter. 4 One day a guest arrived at the home of the rich man. But instead of killing an animal from his own flock or herd, he took the poor man’s lamb and killed it and prepared it for his guest.” 5 David was furious. “As surely as the Lord lives,” he vowed, “any man who would do such a thing deserves to die! 6 He must repay four lambs to the poor man for the one he stole and for having no pity.” 7 Then Nathan said to David, “You are that man! – 2 Samuel 12:1-7 (243)
- When is the last time you had a friend care enough about you to tell you, “Don’t go there.” “That’s stupid. What you’re doing won’t work. It’s going to hurt your marriage. It will ruin your testimony as a Christian. Don’t do it.”
- We all have “blind spots”
- 5An open rebuke is better than hidden love! 6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. – Proverbs 27:5-6 (500)
- Do you have those people in your life? Not critics – everyone has those and they are a dime a dozen. Do you have people in your life who care too much about you to let you blow up your marriage, damage your family, or ruin your health not to say something.
- If not, you may be one friendship away from changing your destiny.
You may be one friendship away from change. One friend away from…
…having the marriage you’ve always wanted
…being the parent you’ve always wanted to be
…becoming generous with your time and resources
…having a level of physical health you’ve always wanted
…experiencing a relationship with God that fills you with meaning and purpose
- So what do you do to have those kind of friends?
- You start by becoming that kind of friend.
- Help others get better, help them find strength in God, love them enough to tell them the truth
- You start by becoming that kind of friend.