HONOR GOD WITH YOUR MARRIAGE
Uncovered, Week 2
Sunday, February 12, 2017
- BIG IDEA: Sex in marriage honors God because it is the protective, healthy, and ongoing affirmation of the husband and wife’s unique union.
- Jesus and Paul refer to Adam and Eve to define marriage.
- This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. – Genesis 2:24 (2)
- According to the Bible, marriage is:
- Covenental – not a contract (Genesis 2:24; Malachi 2:14; Proverbs 2:17)
- Sexual (Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
- Procreative (Genesis 1:28)
- Heterosexual (Genesis 1:27)
- Monogamous (Genesis 2:24)
- Non–Incestuous (Leviticus 18)
- Symbolic (Ephesians 5:21-23)
- This is a letter to the Corinthian church / Paul is giving them instruction on how to handle issues that they have asked him about or he’s heard about
TEXT: 1 Corinthians 7:1-6 (796)
- The Corinthian Problem: It is good not to have sex with your spouse (verse 1).
1Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
- Paul is quoting back what they had written him about and he’s getting ready to correct it.
- Paul: It’s not that you may have sex, it’s you must have sex. It’s not just permissible, it’s indispensable.
- The Christian Solution: It is your joyful duty to have sex with your spouse (verses 2-4).
2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
- In the Jewish culture, sexual intimacy in marriage was seen as the best deterrent to sexual promiscuity (Proverbs 5:19-20 )
- “Marital duty” = “debt or obligation, give back what is owed”
- The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. (verse 3 in NLT)
- Don’t misconstrue the “pay up” idea of the debt – it’s the idea that when I said, “I do” part of that marriage covenant was saying, “I will be the one person on this planet to satisfy your sexual needs and only you will satisfy my sexual needs.”
- Paul: Married people know longer have sole authority over their own bodies, but they share that authority with their spouse.
- This was revolutionary in the patriarchal culture of the audience
- This is not, “You owe me.” It is, “I owe you.”
- The Temporary Exception: It is okay to abstain for a little while, then come back together (verses 5-6).
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
- “Deprive” = “rob or steal from”
- May be a time that both partners agree / for a time / prayer (some manuscripts fasting and prayer) / grow closer to God (a form of fasting)
- Verse 6: This isn’t a command (to have times of abstaining) it’s a concession
Person-centered vs. Body-centered sex
- Covenant (faithful through thick and thin to the very end – neither one of you are going anywhere) > trust (a key ingredient in having great sex)
- Grace (unmerited, unearned favor – your spouse doesn’t need to earn your approval – I am loved even though I mess up, say dumb things – I don’t have to perform [chores, paycheck]) > acceptance
- Intimacy (sex is intimacy, intimacy leads to great sex) > connection